Just a quick aside, I am not interested in your drama.

So for almost a year I have refrained from mentioning my inlaws on this blog. Out of respect for them despite their obvious lack of respect for us, I decided to keep our troubles with them a bit more private. Not anymore. I have hit the last straw. FOR THE FINAL TIME. Let me give you all a brief history of everything that happened since I decided to not bring them up anymore. My inlaws had somebody tracking Nolan and I's blogs and online personalities- facebook, myspace, whatever. Mother inlaw read some things she didnt like, as is what happens when you basically eavesdrop and I found out. We didn't speak for a few months, finally all reconciled and aattempted to establish a truce.

Truce never worked. Why? Because despite their repeated statements that they were willing to let bygones be bygones, forgive and forget, move on and accept their son and his family, IT NEVER HAPPENED. Oh, they'll tell you it did happen but I wielded hundreds of phone calls about their resentments, their bitterness, how they couldn't accept or understand their son. They were really stuck on the idea that Nolan only loved them for money.

Like they are Warren Buffet or Bill Gates or something. No. We're both only children. We wanted a close knit family. We hoped to make them happy, be close, and all move on with our lives. Never happened. At the time of my grandfathers funeral in August, they behaved atrociously. We were in a financial pickle to get to the funeral so we asked if they could possibly help us because of how bad gas prices were. We asked my mom too, of course she helped. But DANA AND MYRON got on the phone, yelled at their son for being such a dissappointment, for being some sort of liar, and for misusing them. it was disgusting. At the time of my family's grief they could only think about themselves.

A little aside. We've never misused them or mistreated them. We've had to establish clear boundaries with them, Nolan has had financial troubles for which he had to negotiate a loan with them to get out of, and basically we've had to deal with their paranoia, resentment, and bitterness for years now. They have continued to say awful things about their son, manipulate us, and have us groveling to try and fix this. FINALLY, we said no more. This relationship is not healthy and it never will be. We sent them a letter with our apologies for all the ways we've apparently wronged them by being alive and stated that unfortunately, it was time to distance ourselves. We said that we've forgiven them but that its clear this relationship can't work.

Then they go and do something so atrocious. They did this one other time that we were temporarily estranged. They involved Nolan's grandmother. She is elderly, clearly, not in the best frame of mind, and they go drag her into the middle. They manipulate her into thinking we're money grubbing users who do nothing but mistreat Dana and Myron. Last time, his grandmother confronted me and blamed me for everything, something that I was mortally offended by- not by Ina, of course, she had no idea, but by Dana for misleading her mother about her own grandson.

Then they go do it again. we finally broke the news to them that they are pregnant and we get another letter from Ina begging us to forgive Dana when Dana did nothing to try and hurt us. HOW DARE YOU BE SO DISHONEST DANA? HOW DARE YOU? YOU WOULD LIE TO YOUR OWN MOTHER AND THEN WONDER WHY YOUR SON IS ESTRANGED FROM YOU. YOUR SON WHO IS SO GODDAMNED DISSAPPPOINTING AND AWFUL IN YOUR OPINION- WHY DO YOU EVEN WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM IF IN YOUR EYES, HE TREATS YOU SO BADLY?

I'm not going to say we've been perfect in our behavior. We never claimed to be. We got into bad financial straights and needed help and asked for a loan. Any money they have ever given us, we will be paying back, BECAUSE WE DON'T WANT CHARITY. But the things we have been accused of, well, frankly we're not guilty. Nolan is an only child, an adopted child who has no biological ties, all he has ever wanted was to be his own person and not to disappoint his parents.

Dana and Myon loved him until he became his own person then decided that for some reason, he had wronged them by being his own person. It has hurt Nolan more than I could even write in a 1000 page novel to be such an apparent dissappointment to them. He kept trying and trying and trying, and he tried the most for his grandmother, because he loves her more than anything. I can understand an elderly woman's wish to reunite her family but I cannot understand her being lead into false pretenses for that BY HER OWN DAUGHTER.

So, Dana and Myron, if you have people reading my blogs like you did before and they print this out for you to read, shame on you. Oh and one last thing, Nolan and I never tried to maintain a relationship with you because of money, which you accussed us of so many times, oh so graciously. WE TRIED BECAUSE WE LOVED YOU AND LOVE INA AND WE WANTED TO MAKE YOU PEOPLE HAPPY. That one reason we kept trying with you, that you falsely accused us of being for money? CORRECTION. WE TRIED FOR INA. WE DID IT FOR HER, WE WANTED HER FAMILY TO BE INTACT. So be honest with her and be honest with yourselves from now on.

Ugh. Sorry guys. I've just kept this to myself for far too long. Didn't mean for the geyser to erupt